Time to Get Out of the Box!

Do you live in a box? I’m going to guess you do and… that you probably aren’t even aware of it.

No not a refrigerator box…  The box of  beliefs and opinions we are handed from parents, teachers, family members… as we grow up…. More boxes as we interact with bosses, authority figures, and yes even peers….

They didn’t physically put you in a box… (well maybe your older siblings did    )  but mentally we end up in those boxes….  Boxes that say – “You can’t do that” / “That is not the way to do it” / “Do it this way” / “You need to listen to me” / “We don’t do things like that” / “I know better”  /  “You aren’t smart enough” / “You aren’t pretty enough” / “Do it my way” / etc… etc…

Life in the Box….

Once you are in that box – you view life from the box… You don’t see the world beyond it….  You react to life from within the box boundaries. Your creativity slows down… Your spontaneity slows… Your self confidence slows… You stop reacting from your inner guidance and you react from the guidelines of the box.

I’ve been thinking a lot about these boxes…. And the other day I got a call from my niece who told me her son failed Kindergarten! I have never in my life heard anything so ridiculous! How do you fail Kindergarten??!

They were doing tests on him. The neurologist said he is ADHD – Ahh the ADHD box! They said they don’t like they way he processes information. My answer to that was “Who cares what they like – he processes in his own way!” She told me more that they said….and I said lots more!

This is one area that I can get very hot under the collar… And so yes I will admit it – When I got off the phone I was ranting! I get upset because I see many of the schools are labeling children and putting them into boxes. So in my rant to my niece and around the house what I said was “They will put him into this box and every time he fights the box they will get a smaller box…. Those boxes crush self confidence, creativity, the desire to learn… And if he is lucky he will have a life coach (maybe me    ) before he is thirty so he can get back out of the box and be himself!!”

As I’m writing this I’m getting a bit hot under that collar again….

Nicholas is bright and articulate (especially when he wants something    )  And he absolutely knows how he wants to do things….  He also has been good at shattering the boxes he was born with… He was premature, my niece was just about 24 wks pregnant, and he weighed just about 1lb. They basically said he was not going to live… And if by any very slight chance he did make it ………..

He won’t walk – he walks fine / He won’t see – he sees fine / He won’t talk – he can talk up a storm! / He would be learning disabled – he is very smart and he learns fine especially when he wants to! He will have a list of diseases – nope he doesn’t have any of them… Oh he does have some allergies….

My wish for him is he continues to shatter those boxes that are around him and listens to his own unique guidance system.

What About Your Box….

Now I have to ask you… Have you shattered those boxes that were given to you? Or maybe the question I should start with is – Are you aware of the boxes that you have lived in? The boxes are the programming we receive as we grow up and mature in this world. If you reject them you are given another box called rebellious!

That programming is what I refer to as “old stories” – we have them running around in our heads and if we aren’t aware – then we are living life from within those boxes.

We come into this world with a clean slate….. From the moment we are here we are learning… We are picking up the vibrations around us. As a baby you usually get lots of good vibrations as most people love babies… And you also pick up the nervous parent vibrations, the uncle who is holding you who really doesn’t like kids and wants to put you down… The vibrations from your siblings arguing…. While these vibrations might not affect you much at that moment – your brain is recording them…

As you are growing you start to get the opinions of the world around you. You are being told this X is right – and this Z is wrong…. If you lived on the other side of the world it could be reversed… Which means these opinions/beliefs are societal.

Now you are living the thought X is right — you parents told you this… In your neighborhood everyone says X is right… Your teachers say X is right … And if you were one of the kids that questioned if X was really right (I was one of them) everyone looked at you like you were Cuckoo! I actually questioned a lot.. which was not good in Catholic school in the 60′s… I eventually stopped questioning…. well I stopped verbalizing my questions….  

Communities live in boxes – people who have similar beliefs live near to each other… Poor – Middle Class – Wealthy – Religious – Ethnic. It is the Law of Attraction that brings them all together. As we are growing up this box of beliefs is bestowed upon us. We start to become conditioned / programmed.

All these people around us say X is right… and when I question it – they laugh at me or tell me I am still young or flat out tell me I am wrong…. I remember thinking “I don’t think X is right… but they all say it is … what if I am wrong…. what if they are right?” There I was… doubting my own guidance system…

I was considered the rebellious one in the family – I did not believe everything I was told… I did not agree with lots of their opinions… I had my own thoughts… But I also doubted myself – I was afraid – Isn’t that a box? The self doubt comes from the things you are told “you are too young to understand” / you are being foolish – you’ll learn / “I’m older than you I know better then you”. And so I did not totally accept their beliefs nor was I confident enough to totally accept my own….

If you don’t conform to the box – you feel different than everyone else in your box…. As a teenager feeling different is scary… we want to be different yet we want to be accepted….

My teens and 20′s I had lots of inner conflicts – Today I am aware those conflicts were the result of that programming of beliefs that I grew up with and my own inner guidance.

Choose Your Beliefs….

While I had proclaimed I had different beliefs than I grew up with — still that programming was coming up in my daily life and I was not even aware of it!

Let’s say you drive a certain route to work… you have been driving this route for 3 years… same way 5 days out of the week. You get to work one day and you realize – I don’t even remember driving here! What happened? Your mind was busy thinking – maybe you were planning your weekend or maybe you were thinking about a business presentation – doesn’t matter what it was — Your mind was thinking and your programming took over…..

When you got in that car you had a destination – a desire – to get to work. You had a belief that you know how to get to work as you have done this over and over. That belief is a program. As you were driving your mind went off onto other thoughts and while you don’t think you were consciously thinking about anything else but those thoughts – Your programming was in there getting you to work.

Now obviously this programming serves you as it got you to where you wanted to go safely… It is also programming that you had chosen. You learned how to drive and practiced till it became almost automatic… You also learned the route from your house to your destination and by doing it over and over it too became almost automatic.

In my later 30′s I became aware that I had lots of old programming still running around in my head that I didn’t even believe in and yet I was automatically reacting to situations from these beliefs! How could this be? How could I be reacting from beliefs that I don’t believe in?! At some point they were imprinted enough that they became a box.. and if we don’t pay attention to our reactions and feelings… we are letting these old stories dictate our today lives.

If you have been reading and applying Law of Attraction to your life and you don’t feel like you are getting results…. You need to shatter some boxes!

7 Laws – 11 Laws – 177 1/2 Laws ???

Yes I see all the info out there on how to create your life…. how to make the Law of Attraction work for you…. etc… etc… I’m not going to label what is good or isn’t – that is a matter of preference. I am going to state my experience with my own life and the people I work with…. There is only one law that encompasses all those other laws they are trying to sell you — that is the Law of Attraction. What you put your focus on is what you vibrate… and what you vibrate is what you attract…

If you are not aware of what you are focusing on because it is coming from old programming… then you need to get out of the box! No… it isn’t difficult — no you don’t have to go back to when you were 3 yrs old. You just need to be more mindful of your thoughts…  More mindful of your feelings. You need to deliberately set your intentions…

All the people I work with – private coaching or in groups – The biggest sticking point they have is these “old stories” – The old programming box that was bestowed on them years ago. When they become aware of this – when they learn how to be more focused and shift those “old stories” …. they get out of that box and into their own unique guidance system. Listening to your own guidance system is the only way you will find true inner peace!

Isn’t it time to get out of that box and get into the Authentic You?!

Want to know more? I will be hosting a free call where I will talk more about these “old stories” and how you can shift your mindset and connect back to your Authentic Self! I will be announcing that call within the next several days… Make sure you are signed up for LOA Tips & News or join me on Facebook – http://facebook.com/LivingLOA

PS: I know…. long post and hot collar – Thanks for reading! 

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"There are No Mistakes..... Only Discoveries!" ^TM ~ Ellie Walsh

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