Rewrite Your Old Stories…

“Continued from Stop Telling the Same Old Story”

We left off here –> Most of us tell old stories all the time — not just in our words to others but in our thoughts to ourselves. And most of the time we aren’t even aware we are doing it – that is because we have been doing it for so long – we aren’t even aware that these thoughts/stories make us feel pretty crummy!

So – how do I even recognize my old stories? And… How do I tell a new story?

First let’s clarify this — if you have an old story that when it runs around in your head it makes you Feel Good — Absolutely Continue Telling that Story!

If you are feeling good – then you are vibrating good – then you are attracting more things that make you feel good – This is how LOA works.

But — if you have old stories, limiting beliefs that run around in your head that make you feel – vulnerable, frustrated, bored, antsy, ornery, angry, fear, self doubt — Those are the stories we want to change.

Many times we aren’t even aware these stories are running around — until we take the time to evaluate – How am I feeling at this moment?

I have found that most of us are aware when we are feeling good, positive, happy and we are also aware when we are feeling tense, angry, high anxiety….. But many times we aren’t aware when we are feeling – a bit frustrated – or a bit antsy – or a bit ornery – or a bit doubtful.

Many of us are used to functioning through our day with low level anxiety – or low level frustration. We have actually become accustomed to feeling crappy!

Well you say – if you had 2 teenagers at home and you worked in the environment that I work in — you would have low level anxiety too!

And I say — That is an Old Story!

OK – Don’t hit me yet!

First off – Please tell me how feeling this anxiety, frustration is helpful to you and your children and your work environment?

Well it isn’t helpful — but it is reality.

Remember we talked about reality – all reality is – is each person’s perspective. So…. Create your own Reality!

That low level anxiety is there because you must be thinking thoughts like — I hope the kids are OK, I hope they are doing their homework or cleaning their rooms – I can’t stand this job and I wish that boss of mine would leave me alone. I am so busy – I don’t have enough time to do everything I need to – I really hope the kids get their homework done before I get home….. etc…. etc….. etc…….

These are random, limiting old stories! And yes you can change them!

You can rewrite the stories that run around in your head – with the new stories of what you do want. You have identified what you want by knowing exactly what you don’t want…..

Now you might need to break this down into bite size pieces or you might be able to do that entire scenario above at one swoop. I recommend when you first do this – start out with the bite size things.

So let’s take: I am so busy – I don’t have enough time to do everything I need to do

OK so we know what we don’t want which brings us to what we do want – we want to have time to accomplish our tasks for the day and time for ourselves.

Here is a *process to rewrite that old story into a new story – Knowing what you do want – there are 4 questions to answer – each question is to be answered with 3 different responses. The responses need to be clear and simple – simple enough for a 5 year old to understand.

The questions are:

• 1) What do you see that shows you you have achieved this?
  • So imagine it – imagine what your life would look like if you had enough time to do all your tasks and have extra time for yourself. Maybe you would see yourself going smoothly through your day with a serene smile on your face and taking some time to read a book. You need to see this clearly and give 3 different examples.
• 2) What do you hear others saying that shows this is achieved?
  • Maybe you hear your friend saying how relaxed you look lately. Maybe you hear your spouse saying how comfortable they feel around you. Give 3 examples.
• 3) What do you say to them?
  • What are you saying back to these people? Maybe you are saying – that you have been taking time to take care of you and it just seems that everything else falls into place. Maybe you are saying that you looked relaxed and comfortable because you feel relaxed and comfortable. Give 3 responses.
• 4) What do you feel that shows you’ve achieved this?
  • So what is it? Maybe you feel lighter – maybe you feel like now you will be able to start doing some things you have been looking forward to – so you would be feeling hopeful. Again you want 3 responses to this.

Don’t just do this in your head – write it down and as you are writing – see and feel the questions and answers – you will immediately get relief from what was bothering you….. Now it is possible you will stop that old story, that limiting belief right there the first time — If it does creep back up again — You can take out what you wrote and re-read it and add to it.

This process will change the old limiting self defeating stories that are running around in your head! You will be amazed at how easy this will work!

If you made a commitment to yourself to do this for the next 30 days – you will be amazed at how different you would be feeling and how different your life would be looking at the end of those 30 days!

Don’t believe me? Well — go ahead and try it for 30 days — then come on back and tell me your story!

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* I want to thank Jeannette Maw for writing out this process for myself and other’s who attended a group she co-hosted. You can find out more about Jeannette by visiting her blog – Law of Attraction Playground

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