Is Everything Always Supposed to Be Positive?

I received this question on my answer machine the other day…

Here is how the question was asked……

“If everything is always supposed to be positive…… When am I ever just supposed to just be me and feel the way I feel and feel sad or upset or grouchy or even negative?”

This is a great question! It encompasses many ideas that people hold about so-called positive thinking….

First off - who said everything is supposed to be positive? What we each consider positive & negative can vary greatly between people especially between societies. What we each consider positive or negative is actually our own perspectives…..

Since I didn’t get to talk to the person - I am guessing what they mean by this is - is everything always supposed to feel good?

I hear these types of questions often and what I am hearing is this:

Am I supposed to always feel good? - Am I supposed to feel good even when I feel sad? Why can’t I be grouchy if I feel grouchy? Why can’t I be negative if I feel negative?

What I really hear in those questions is the frustration of living in a society that tells us - It is not OK to be angry - it is not sociable to be sad - It is not polite to be grouchy….

Hey - parent’s prefer if their kids are polite and quiet… And teacher’s want their student’s to be quiet and keep their voices down… And bosses want their employees to work nice together and not fight with each other…. And the list goes on and on….

I know… I grew up being told I wasn’t angry - when I was indeed angry - - Why? Well all people actually want the other people that surround them to act in ways that they prefer…. Don’t you? Come on - be honest - - wouldn’t it be just honky dory if everyone that surrounded you acted just in the way you preferred them to? My goodness doesn’t that sound like your life would just flow oh so smoothly?!

BUT - - none of us are puppets… And we do get angry, frustrated, sad - - So I say…. If you are angry - then proclaim your anger - if you are sad - proclaim your sadness…. but - then I ask you… Do you want to stay there? Do you want to stay in your anger or your sadness?

Of course you don’t - none of us want to stay in anger or sadness. None of us, really truly from our souls, ever want to be anything other than joy-filled! That is our true desire - actually that is our only true desire.

So…. you are involved in a situation that makes you angry - - go ahead and be angry… Law of Attraction does not tell you to not be angry!

Wait Ellie - we hear you talking about feeling good - you are always talking about feeling good…. So how can you now tell us to go ahead and be angry?

What I say is - -

• at your core level you are pure joy - that is who you are and that is what you truly always want to be.

What I say is - -

• you always have a choice. You can always choose what to look at - what to think about… You can always choose to find the worst in a situation or find the best in a situation… You have that choice….

What I say is - -

• Law of Attraction does not have any preference what you choose to focus on…. whatever you focus on - you send out a vibration and that vibration brings more of it’s likeness to itself…

What I say is - -

• what I have heard Abraham say so many times - You are so Powerful - you are so Free - - you can choose Bondage!

So….. go ahead and be angry or sad - absolutely accept that anger or sadness - proclaim it out loud!

Then ask yourself - Do I want to stay angry? Do I want to keep this angry vibration going? Don’t I really, truly want to feel good? How can I find a way to feel good?

The answer to feeling good is not about other people or situations - You have the power to feel good in any situation - all you have to do is soften your focus - lighten up your thoughts - change your mind….

If you are very angry - you are not going to jump straight to roses and lollipops bliss! That is too big of a jump! But you can, and you have, looked at a situation and then realized - I don’t need to be this upset about that — Hmmm that starts to lighten the load…. as you lighten your anger - your vibration lightens - as your vibration lightens you can let in less angry thoughts…..

My favorite saying is “This is Not a Big Deal” - - Yes I have had experiences in my life that many would consider a big deal - But I ask you - If I stayed in that angry, victim mode - what do you think life would continue to bring me? I’m sure you get my point…..

I hope you do not think I am ever asking you to not be something you truly want to be…. I just have to ask you -

Isn’t it true that what you really, really want is to Be Happy?

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“There are No Mistakes….. Only Discoveries!” ~ Ellie Walsh