Are You Getting “Sucked In” ?

Do you ever feel like you are getting “sucked in” by the people around you?

Here is a question I received this week from someone who is brand new to learning about the Law of Attraction – - -

“I have an associate (friend) that is “self-absorbed” person but has a brief moment when she thinks of me. I’ve been told by family and friends that have met this person that “she’s a user”. I’m aware of this but she “sucks” me in to being around her and doing things for her. I try to do other things with my family and friends to keep “busy” and move in another direction from her.

I know I have to make my mind up and do what’s best for me can you help me with some suggestions, please. thanks”

This is a Great Question! This question is asked, in some form, by most folks when they are first looking at how the Law of Attraction works with their own lives…. And this question encompasses many questions – or shall I say many beliefs….

Here is the short answer:

If you are understanding the Law of Attraction you know you can not be a victim – you are much too powerful to be a victim! Nothing can happen to you that you have not in some way attracted to yourself.

Now if I just knocked your socks off by that statement – I recommend you go back to my first article – Law of Attraction. If you have signed up for my local 4 week Manifesting Workshop – we will be going into detail about situations just like this.

Obviously we don’t attract these situations on purpose. None of us is thinking thoughts like “I can’t wait to have a crappy day” …. Still we attract these types of unwanted situations and this is because we are not aware of the power of our thoughts – our beliefs – we basically go through life sleep-walking. We are not aware of over 90% of our own thoughts and beliefs!

I certainly lived a similar situation that is being described in the above question… I felt that other people were using me – taking advantage of me….

When I learned the power of my beliefs – I was then able to change those situations. I did not change the other people – what changed was how I looked at my life. I became more aware of my thoughts when I realized those thoughts are the vibrations that are attracting the situations into my life.

When you find yourself in situations as described in this question – the thing to do is to look inside of you – not outside of you – not at the other people… Look within to the types of thoughts and beliefs that you have….

Most of us have been brought up with dis-empowering beliefs. We don’t even know how powerful we are – we don’t know how Free we are! I love when Abraham says “You are so Free – You can choose Bondage”

Because we don’t know how powerful we are and we don’t understand the Law of Attraction we live life by default. We see things we don’t like and we feel bad – which sends that vibration out to the Universe and brings more like situations to us!

There is no magic answer to this question…

no magic formula to follow….

For me – I had to look at each situation and then ask myself some questions -

• Is this person very important to me?
• Do I enjoy being with her more than not?

If my answer is No – then I need to change the relationship. I do not need to keep myself busy – I need to stand up for myself and just make a choice.

Not a choice based on my family or friend’s opinions… That is a big trap! That is another belief sitting in there – maybe the belief is that your friend’s and family know what is right or wrong for you.

No one knows what is best for us! The only person who truly knows what is appropriate or inappropriate for us – is ourselves! I need to make my own decisions based on how I feel not on what other people think….

If I feel I mostly enjoy the relationship with this person – then I need to again, look at me – within me, and ask myself some more questions -

• Why would I be doing things for this person that I don’t want to do?

I’m guessing there is another belief stuck in here – a belief that says you have to do things for other people – Maybe it is about other people not liking us if we don’t do those things…Whatever the specifics – this belief is based on pleasing other people before we please ourselves…

Ohhh I know – that belief has been passed on for generations…. And it stems from all of us being “self-absorbed” – Wouldn’t we all prefer if all the people in our lives acted just the way we thought they should?!

The only perspective we can come from is the self-perspective – so – in essence we are all “self absorbed” / “self centered”. Just the thought of me thinking another ought to think about me or treat me different – is a “self-centered” thought. Yes?

We really are on the short answer here – as we have only touched on a few of the beliefs/thoughts that are encased within this question. That is why at first glance many people are confused/frustrated with the Law of Attraction because it challenges the thoughts and beliefs we have been carrying around with us for years!

As my question asker states – “I know I have to make my mind up and do what’s best for me……” That is exactly what needs to be done – we each need to find what is appropriate or inappropriate for ourselves. There is no cut and dry answer to these types of questions….

I would suggest going through this website starting at my first article on the Law of Attraction and reading through… there are many examples here on how our thought process works and on how to change your life by changing your thoughts.

I would also suggest these resources;

• A great movie which talks about how our thoughts create our lives as well as Quantum Physics is “What the Bleep Do We Know!?”
• Many have heard of this DVD – “The Secret” and there is also the book – “The Secret”
• The DVD that I highly recommend is from Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life: The Movie I think this movie is much better than the Secret!
• I think all of the Abraham books and DVD’s are great. This one book I extra highly recommend – “Ask and It Is Given”
• And of course Abraham-Hicks website

……… Did I really answer the question that was asked?

Well – I addressed some of the beliefs and thoughts behind the question and I probably gave you some more questions to ask.

These are the type of questions that are best answered when I can dialogue directly with the person. If you have questions you would like direct answers to you can contact me regarding my email coaching program.

The Universe hears your questions and will always supply you the answer… So ask questions – read – get support – and then decide what resonates with you…….

Your answers are Within You….

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“There are No Mistakes….. Only Discoveries!” ~ Ellie Walsh

 

 

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