What’s Right with your life? What makes you Feel Good? What do you Appreciate? What are you Grateful for?

How about sharing it with us all……… Lyman Reed from Creating a Better Life has started a post where he is asking you to share your thoughts. I hear he is being slammed with submissions!

Imagine being slammed with Appreciation & Gratitude & Love?!

How good can it get?

On Thanksgiving day, Thursday Nov 27th – Lyman is going to share all this Wonder with us all! Go on over to What’s Right With You and add your entry and share it with the world … then on Thanksgiving day be prepared to be buried in Love!

Thank You for doing this Lyman! 

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"There are No Mistakes..... Only Discoveries!" ^TM ~ Ellie Walsh

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Each person has their own Unique, Specific, Personalized Questions….

And… I Don’t Have Your Answers!

But – - Ellie, You are a Law of Attraction Life Coach – You work one on one with people – You run Workshops and Telecourses – Surely you must be giving people the Answers?!

Nope – I don’t do that – -

I can’t possible know your answers to your life questions! Each person has a unique perspective – each person has their own personal way of looking at life. Even when you tell me your perspective – I still can not 100% understand it – because I, too, have my own perspective.

There is no one right way to live your life! There is no one special formula that you follow to be successful in life!

Yes – I know there are other’s out there that tell you they have your answers… Hmmm – I don’t want to say they are lying…. but they certainly aren’t telling you the truth!

Your Answers are inside of You!

You have your own emotional guidance system – you have your own inner voice. You need to determine what is important to you and what resonates with you. It doesn’t matter what your spouse, child, mother or friend thinks you should do – You need to listen to Your Own Inner Voice.

So… Having said all of that – why would anyone enlist the services of a coach or join a workshop or telecourse?? Or for that matter even read a personal development book??

I know for me… When I first started down the path of personal development – I needed to read and listen to all I could about the subject. From that information – I was then able to define my own path – I was able to sort through the information and decide what works for me and what doesn’t work for me.

When I had access to a computer I was then also able to connect with like-minded people through forums and telecourses. It was and still is important to me to have that connection with people who are headed in the same general direction that I am. We might not be doing it the same way – but we have a common interest.

For me – it is great to be able to connect with people and uplift and be uplifted!

In my Law of Attraction Coaching, Workshops and Telecourses – I explain the principals of the Law of Attraction and how to utilize them within your daily life. I share my personal experiences of what has worked for me and the processes that have worked for my clients.

And… most important – I supply you with email support – so you can go out and practice these processes and come back and talk about what does and doesn’t resonate with you. From that point together we can fine tune how you personally can utilize the Law of Attraction to Create the Life You Desire!

There is no Cookie Cutter Process – there is no One Size Fits All….

You are a Magnificent, Powerful Creator – You are Special and Unique!

Joining like-minded groups, reading, attending workshops and telecourses – gives you the information that you can personally digest and then make your choices of what is Right for You

You Have Your Own Answers!

On July 15th, about 20 people will join me on a 5 week journey to uncover the Magnificent Creator that You are and discover how to utilize the Law of Attraction to Create the Life You Desire. If this resonates with you – there are a few spaces left. You can read all about it: Click Here for more Info

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Here is a short clip from the May 2008 Workshop I did in East Greenbush, NY

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"There are No Mistakes..... Only Discoveries!" ^TM ~ Ellie Walsh

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I keep catching myself trying to make myself sad!

Every morning I wake up and declare “The most important thing today is that I feel good!” And then during the day – I am finding myself trying to make me sad!

I know …. this sounds a bit Cuckoo!

If you read my last post “I Need You to Take Me Through This” – then you know that my dear friend, Marria passed over – just 13 days ago.

And as I spoke about in that post – her transition was an absolutely beautiful experience for me!

So why am I trying to make me sad?

I’m thinking I have some residual societal thinking still stuck in my brain!

I know I grew up believing dead is dead. Well actually I grew up as a Catholic and while they did indeed teach about an after life – there were so many rules and conditons – I think dead sounded better!

And as a society we think it is “normal” or maybe even “mandatory” to feel sad when someone transitions.

In the last 5 1/2 years I have experienced the transition of 3 major people in my life. Gale, my partner of 18 years, was the first. I wrote briefly about that in “A Life Changing Event”

When Gale passed over, I had just been introduced to Abraham (I’m sure that was not a coincidence) and by reading and listening to them – I was able to find hope in my life. But… I indeed was sad. I was very, very sad. I promise you I had never cried so hard in all my life. I did not know you could cry so hard.

But I also remember going out to eat with some close friends the evening she passed over… And there in the Chinese restaurant we were laughing – I mean really laughing — not just giggling… And then I said to my friends “People will think I am terrible that I am laughing on the evening that Gale died!” Now I said this with a snicker — but — I was also thinking – ‘Ellie you are supposed to be sad’

Three years later I got a phone call from my sister – my mother had laid down and didn’t get up. She was almost 88 yrs old but she wasn’t sick and we all had believed she would live at least as long as her mother did which was till 94. So hearing this news was absolutely a shock for me.

I got in the car to make the 3 1/2 hour ride downstate to my family and I was able to connect with my mother right away. I knew she was OK – I knew all was well….

When I arrived at the funeral parlor – I did have a few tears – - those tears were for several of my family members who I saw were in great pain over my mother’s transition.

My mother and I had a really great relationship! I enjoyed her humor, her intelligence, her kindness. I loved when she told me stories from when she was young – I could listen for hours to her. Hmmm well she could talk for hours!

So – why wasn’t I terribly sad like other people?

I remember thinking – ‘Maybe I am in denial’ - – - Denial – that is what people say you are in if you do not react or see things in the manner society thinks is appropriate.

It seems to me that as a society we have a consciousness of thinking on the subject of death:

• We should be sad when someone dies – -

Except of course if we kill them with the death penalty – then we should not be sad we should be happy!

No one ever told me how to react to death -

I guess I heard other people’s views and saw how other people responded. I know I was around conversations when the remaining family member’s were spoken about. The spouse who was so devastated and never remarried. The parent’s who never found joy again.

Or the conversations that spoke of the spouse who was dating just 3 weeks later! Hmmm – I learned that was not acceptable! The opinion then was that person must have never loved the other…

Marria’s Gift to Me

As I spoke in my last post – I can not even begin to describe what I experienced in that meditation when Marria passed over. It is truly beyond words!

This experience has changed my life in a deeper way. I was granted a peek into this transition – which is filled with Love and Peace and Joy!

And… I was not alone in this feeling…. As Coryelle, Carol & I drove back to the house – we were so high – we were giddy with this radiating, shining Love! We said to each other – “we better tone ourselves down before we get to the house – because the other 3 people that were with Marria will not understand where we are coming from!”

I Am Not Sad

When Gale transitioned – I was sad. Actually sad is not even close to how I felt – I was filled with a grief so deep I can not find words to describe it!

I went deeper into me – I immersed myself into the teachings of the Law of Attraction. That grief was transformed into a whole new level of understanding of life and of what we call death.

• I do not believe in dead…. I believe our energy just changes it’s vibration. The physical body that we see with our eyes is gone but the energy – that energy still pulses on.
• I believe in every moment of my life – I get to choose how I feel – the situations in my life can not make me feel a certain way.

I have been able to connect with Gale, my Mother and Marria – I can literally feel their presence – I can speak with them and in my mind’s eye I can see them.

Yes there are days I miss their actual physical presence in my life…. but I can look around and see and appreciate all the gifts they have bestowed on me. And I can look all around and appreciate all the other wonderful people in my life.

Each of these people who have transitioned play a very important part in my life. My relationship with them will never cease – it has just changed the way it looks.

I Catch Myself….

Each time I catch myself thinking how I should be sad… I am so aware I have an old tape playing in my head. I have old residual thoughts running around… I am now able to quickly adjust my thoughts – adjust my feelings and laugh out loud.

• Laugh knowing I am truly the creator of my life!
• Laugh knowing my dear loved ones are filled with Shining Joy!
• Laugh knowing I still celebrate their lives everyday of my life!

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“There are No Mistakes….. Only Discoveries!” ~ Ellie Walsh

I just heard about this “Happy Party” and I absolutely needed to join in…. Alex Shalman started this “Happiness Project” over at his site – AlexShalman.com.

Alex asks 5 questions – When I first read those questions – I thought – - “piece of cake” I’ll write about this in a just a few minutes…..

Well that is what I thought – until I asked myself the questions….. What I found is – when I first read those questions – I felt they were “simple” – The committee members in my head – where doing the answering for me…..

But – - as I asked the questions To Me – - my gut – my inner voice took over – which are much different answers than my head supplies…..

#1) How do you define happiness?

Geez – How do you? I’m thinking Can You? Can this state of being have a definition? I can go to the dictionary and look up a definition for happiness – but that would be Mr. Webster’s definition of happiness – not mine….

When I look deeper into it – I realize I have answered the question by calling it a “state of being” … but … Is it really a state of being or is it my core. Is happiness my core and other states I experience a deviation of my coreness? I know that is not a real word – but that is the word that comes as I speak of this….

Isn’t Happiness / Joy – my authentic self? Isn’t Happiness / Joy – Life? Any deviation from it is an experience – a perspective – an interpretation of what is going on….

That is my answer to this question – Happiness – IS – - – - It is the essence of life – it is all that there truly is – everything else is a perspective – a reaction….

#2) On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your happiness now, versus when you were a child?

Well since I have defined happiness as IS – I would have to say that my happiness was a 10+ as a child and it is a 10+ now.

Come on Ellie – did you and do you still live in la-la land? OK I understand that question… and truthfully – years ago had you told me your life was a 10+ in happiness – I would ask you what kind of drugs you were taking and would you share them with me?!

But I have come beyond my head with these questions – and here is what my inner voice says….

When I look back at my childhood – I could certainly tell you times of woe. I could even tell you stories of what could be considered drama/trauma — When I look beyond the experiences of that child – I can see the essence of that being. The child that went out into the day with the expectation of a journey filled with joy!

When I look at children today – I can see that essence within them – they Are Happiness – they Are Joy….. Even within their bickering or their temper tantrums – they are that happiness. Indeed it is that knowing of who they are within them – that incites those tantrums – As they instinctively know they are supposed to be happiness!

And today Ellie – you would say your happiness is a 10+? Yes – though I promise you people who know me might not agree! Some would say – I saw you the other day – that face you had on certainly didn’t look like happiness to me!

I agree! I don’t always allow the happiness of who I am to run my day… I get caught up in judgment – I can believe in lack – I can believe in injustice – - BUT – - I can always come back to my authentic self. Just knowing that – just knowing that I have the power to perceive life anyway I choose – that is happiness!

When Gale suddenly transitioned – I experienced grief, sadness, loss beyond description….. Never in the then 47 years of my life did I ever feel like this! I felt this grief from the absolute tips of my toenails to the tips of every hair on my head – it permeated my entire body!

But…. Here is what I discovered – If I took my attention away from what was going on I could find relief.

In the morning I found her lying on the living room floor….. gone – the day was a whirlwind of feelings and shock. That evening I was with friends – and there were times I was laughing. I was truly laughing! Here in the midst of the most dramatic and saddest time of my life and I was laughing!

Even in the darkest hour – I could connect with joy. How could that be? I believe it is because we are indeed always that Joy – but as we experience life through this human body and analyzing mind – we lose sight of who we really are.

So…. for me, anything less than a 10+ means I am reacting to life – not living it…. it means I am in another moment – not the now of life.

#3) What do you do on a daily basis that brings you happiness? (and how consistent is the feeling of happiness throughout your day)

For me this question becomes – What do I do on a daily basis that connects me with this happiness that is my Authentic Self?

Ohhhh some days I don’t do diddly squat! You know those days – I think my doing actions are much more important than my being actions. And here is the amazing part – even when I don’t think about my connection to all that is – even on those days that I have thoughts of lack and judgment – there is still happiness in my life and I never feel totally disconnected from it – though I can feel far away from it!

And I can at any moment of that day – decide to see life through the eyes of my authentic self – I can decide to stop reacting to life – to external conditions – and proclaim my oneness with all there is.

Am I a consistent 10+ every moment of everyday? Well I AM – but I absolutely don’t experience that!

The days I am more aware of my authentic self are the days I meditate for a few minutes in the morning… I declare my intention for the day which is to feel good – I claim my power and I claim my love….. Those days have less dips in them.

Many years ago I made a decision – I was never again going to have a “bad day”. I have stuck to that decision and it has been life changing for me. I can have a day with a gazillion bad moments – - but never will I declare that a day was bad!

#4) What things take away from your happiness? What can be done to lessen their impact or remove them from your life?

It is my reaction to life that increases of decreases the feeling of happiness. It is never about anyone or anything else – it is always about my perception of what is going on in life that determines how I am feeling.

If there was anything I needed to remove from life – it was my old thought patterns. I had to learn, and continue to learn, how to think from my inner voice not my head.

#5) What do you plan on doing in the future that will bring you even more happiness?

My intention everyday is to Feel Good! The more I am aware that happiness is my core of being – the more I can connect with it.

When I know who I truly am – the I AM – - there is no past or future – there is only Now. When I go back and think about what I should or shouldn’t have done – - I am bringing that into and living it in the Now…. Likewise if I think about what I should or shouldn’t be doing in the future – - I am again bringing that and living that in the Now.

So always (all ways) Now is truly all there IS – and all there IS

IS Happiness!

I can choose to live that at 10+ or -10 … it is all my choice………

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These “simple” questions made me sit back – take notice of my beliefs – my feelings – my connection to me. This Happiness Project did not take me just a few short minutes…. I found great joy answering these questions because I took the time to engage my inner voice – and answered from my authentic self. So… a Big Thank You to Alex Shalman for such thought provoking “simple” questions!

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“There are No Mistakes….. Only Discoveries!” ~ Ellie Walsh